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Heroes Need Friends and Mentors

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Written by Pat Curran

Posted on 17 December 2017

Last Updated 17 December 2017

Motivational Moment - 

"Heroes Need Friends and Mentors"

Optimus Prime: Are you Samuel James Witwicky, descendent of Archibald Witwicky.


Mikaela: They know your name!


Sam Witwicky: Yeah.


Optimus Prime: My name is Optimus Prime. We are Autonomous Robotic Organisms from the planet Cybertron.


Ratchet: But you can call us “Autobots,” for short.



--From the 2007 movie “Transformers”

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On our “Hero’s Journey” sometimes we think we need to travel alone. We talk ourselves into believing that no one will understand, and it’s just too hard to explain our reason why. This is usually the biggest mistake that people make.


Here’s the reality. Heroes need friends and mentors. Know the distinction.   Friends are peers who share the same values and care deeply about you. Mentors are “adults” who have experienced life and have wisdom to share. Every hero who has achieved their purpose has been surround by friends and mentors at all stages of their life. It’s the only way to cover our blind spots as we travel to our destination.


Feeling alone or lost?   Here’s my next challenge. Instead of remaining isolated, maybe its time to look for friends and mentors in new places. Or perhaps maybe it’s time to examine some of our unconscious biases that are filtering out some really good people.


The lesson here is that no one does anything worthwhile alone. To make a difference, we need each other.     

God Bless,


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This Week in Training –

“It's a Big World.  Go Run It!”

“It’s a big world. Go run it!”



--ASICS Running Commercia (Motivational)
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This week is my first step toward training for the Marine Corps Marathon. To achieve the goal of running 26.2 miles, I’ve customized a hybrid Sprint Triathlon and Marathon training program. This approach has/will allow my body 26 weeks to adapt to increasing running distances. You will notice that on my Saturday workouts, I will now start tracking my miles instead of running time.


But beyond that, I’ve solicited friends and mentors to help me. Buzz Phillips and Mark Taylor (West Point classmates) will be running with me during the race. I've joined the Team Fisher House Fund Raising Community " to stay virtually connected with dozens of fellow runners inspired to raise money for our most severely wounded military and their families. I have Mike Kohlbrenner, one of the most experienced runners I know, ready to give me advice as I hit my trouble spots. Finally for keeping on “mission” and maintaining spiritually connectedness, I rely heavily on reflection, prayer, and trusted friends to guide me. In short, it’s a huge team! Yes, I do the heavy lifting because it’s my goal, but I’m not alone.


Beyond the workouts, take time this week to surround yourself with people who are more talented than you in certain areas and be prepared to give back with something you excel in later. And for spiritual strength, don’t be afraid to ask God for help and seek insights from your place of worship. Throw everything at it: Body-Mind-Spirit. That’s how goodness grows.


In the meantime, here are some running videos to get you started for the week:


  • Introduction to the Pose Method, click here
  • To learn the Basic Pose Movement, click here
  • To learn to run without injury (Pose), click here
  • To learn how to run faster (Fall), click here
  • To learn how to run longer (Pull), click here
  • To watch how to maximize each stride, click here
  • For an intro to basic Pose Drills, click here


This week’s workout plan:

Monday: Swim 10 x 100m; Run 5 x Hills; Core Strength 1

Tuesday: Bike 60 min; Run 45 min; Core Strength 2

Wednesday: Bike 60 min; Core Strength 1

Thursday: Swim 3 x 400m; Bike 45 min; Core Strength 2

Friday: Swim 10x 50m; Bike 90min; Core Strength 1

Saturday: Run 7 miles; Core Strength 2
Sunday: Long Stretch; Sports with Daughters   


*Core Strength 1 focus on chin-ups, pushups, planks, lower back/abs

**Core Strength 2 focuses on squats, hip strengthening, and stretching
***Questions: Email  This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it      


The Transformation Challenge
“Skills for the Future”

“I don’t know who you are. I don’t know what you want.

If you are looking for ransom, I can tell right now,

I don’t have money.


But what I do have are a very particular set of skills.”



Liam Neeson in “Taken”

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Some skills from our past are critical for being successful and achieving our goals. Other skills are nice to have when you need them and should be quietly kept sharp. But how do we identify what skills are missing and what actions we should take to go get them?


This week’s transformational challenge starts with a blank sheet of paper. On the top, center write “Skills Inventory & Action Plans.” Now, create 3 equally spaced columns.


For the first column titled, “Skills Inventory,” write down all of the skills you have. Trust me, you have lots of them. If it helps, created categories first: Professional, Academic, Physical, Spiritual, and Other. Then, be fair and honest with yourself by writing down the things that you can do in those categories.


For the second column, title “Skills Needed” asked, “What’s missing for me to feel “complete,” to live my purpose, or maybe something more practical like getting a job or being a better parent?” Let go of any negativity, and dream big. Then, aligned with each of the categories in the first column, write all those skills that seem missing to fully bring out who you know you are meant to be.


Finally go to the third column, titled “Action Plans.” Now looking at each row of categories, write down what actions you plan to take to acquire the additional skills needed to be you.


This “Skills Inventory and Action Plan” puts you in a great place to go find friends and mentors who can help you. It prepares you for a focused, productive conversation because you have clearly identified whom you are, where you are at, and what your plan is to keep growing. Now friends and mentors can provide you pin-pointed advice and support to help you on your way.


For my fellow veterans struggling to get started, here are a couple places you can go:


Fitness & Community - Team RWB

Education and Life Planning - Edge4Vets

Need a Corporate Mentor - American Corporate Partners


If you just need a few quick ideas for how to get started, you can email me as well at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it . I’m slow to respond on email, but I do read them.


Now, get to work!