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"Heroes Need Friends and Mentors"

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Written by Pat Curran

Posted on 17 January 2018

Last Updated 17 January 2018



Optimus Prime
: Are you Samuel James Witwicky, descendent of Archibald Witwicky.


Mikaela: They know your name!


Sam Witwicky: Yeah.


Optimus Prime: My name is Optimus Prime. We are Autonomous Robotic Organisms from the planet Cybertron.


Ratchet: But you can call us “Autobots,” for short.



--From the 2007 movie “Transformers”
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On our “Hero’s Journey” sometimes we think we need to travel alone. We talk ourselves into believing that no one will understand, and it’s just too hard to explain our reason why. This is usually the biggest mistake that people make.


Here’s the reality. Heroes need friends and mentors. Know the distinction.   Friends are peers who share the same values and care deeply about you. Mentors are “adults” who have experienced life and have wisdom to share. Every hero who has achieved their purpose has been surround by friends and mentors at all stages of their life. It’s the only way to cover our blind spots as we travel to our destination.


Feeling alone or lost?   Here’s my next challenge. Instead of remaining isolated, maybe its time to look for friends and mentors in new places. Or perhaps maybe it’s time to examine some of our unconscious biases that are filtering out some really good people.


The lesson here is that no one does anything worthwhile alone. To make a difference, we need each other.


God Bless,



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 Letters From Your Father –

“Friends, Mentors, and the Moral Compass”



 “Been around the world twice.  Talked to everyone once.

There is nothing I can’t do.  No sky too high.  No sea too rough.
Learned a lot of lessons in my life.
Never shoot a large caliber man with a small caliber bullet.
Anything in life worth doing is worth overdoing.  
Moderation is for cowards.
I’m a lover. I’m a fighter.
I am a UDT Navy Seal Diver.”



Alexander Ludwig playing Mr. Patton in “Lone Survivor”
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Dear Girls:


During my time in the military, I did not have to face any of the 10+ years of combat that others had to endure. However, I did have the great fortune of being trained by many of our nation’s elite who is still serving today. Their impact on my thinking and values cannot be measured. One area in particular is how to pick friends and learn from mentors.


First, it starts with the rite of passage. Regardless of where you come from, your ethnicity, your social class, you are judged on how much are you willing to give toward living to your potential while looking out for others around you. After a given amount of time, you earn respect for your dedication, skills, and character.


With this rite of passage also comes a common core of beliefs. They include Honor, Integrity, Personal Courage, Leadership, Duty, Respect for Others, and Selfless Service. Yes, we all have our own personal beliefs and values, but our loyalty is rooted in natural, moral, and just law. Decision-making is not simply a human calculation but also must bring the light of conscience in its delivery. All of this focus on skills, common beliefs, and values produces trust. A trust to call it how you see it. A trust that once a decision is made, we stick together until the task is done.


What these mentors and life long friends taught me as I returned back into the civilian world is to be friendly to as many people as possible. In the 10s of thousands of first-time interactions over a lifetime, quickly discern if the other person’s moral compass is strong enough for becoming a friend. Don’t get caught up on the other “filters” of the matrix that are designed to divide us. Look into their eyes and see their soul. Do they have the strength to choose the harder right over the easier wrong? Can they go against the majority and correct an uncomfortable injustice that the world would rather pretend is not there? Do they throw everything at a challenge to serve something bigger than themselves?


Again, be friendly with as many people as possible. Do not make one unnecessary enemy when interacting with others. If you are lucky, you will meet 10-15 lifetime friends (people you may not see for years but have trusted) and 1-3 people outside of family who you will trust with your life.


Heroes need friends who will stick by them and mentors who can help them grow. No one is the total package. Teams with complementary skills and the same core values are the ones who accomplish great things. Set the bar high and look hard. But don’t miss the obvious. Remember that parents are special mentors who play a critical role in your life. No other mentor will care about you and your life more than us. I can’t emphasize enough that no matter what you say, do, or experience, we will always be there for you.


Love You Forever,




What is an “uncomfortable injustice?” Please read below.


This Week in Training:

“Two AJ’s – A Special Bond”



“There is so much in life we can’t choose.  
Our families.  Our names.  Our challenges.
One thing we can choose is our friends.
And sometimes, they’re the greatest choices we make.”


From ESPN “Two AJ’s – A Special Bond”
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This week, I want to challenge you beyond the physical. Make a new friend or become someone’s mentor. If things are going well for you, look for someone who will benefit from your experience. If you are struggling, ask someone who is strong with spirit for some advice. Either way, break a barrier and be part of a community. You will be better for it.


Here’s this week’s workout. It’s starting to get tough.


Monday:         Swim 15 x 100m; Hills 4 x 800m

Tuesday:       Bike 1 hr 15 min; Run 60 min

Wednesday: Swim 8 x 200m; Bike 90 min

Thursday:     Swim Drills & 12 x 50m; Core strength training*

Friday:           Bike 2 hrs 30 min

Saturday:       Run 1 hr 30 min

Sunday:        Pilates Stretch; Sports w/girls


*Core strength training includes chin-ups, push-ups, dips, planks, rock wall climbing

**Stretch 30 min each day to “injury-proof” and avoid becoming “brittle”


Tip of the week: Set the timer on your watch to go off every 40 minutes. Once the timer goes off, take 3-5 minutes to do some stretches. Change the stretches during each interval or walk somewhere during that time period. Stay loose and focus on injury prevention.