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"Two Words: Own It!"

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Written by Pat Curran

Posted on 17 January 2018

Last Updated 17 January 2018



“Yeah…  You see that look in their eyes?  When we fought, I trained hard but I didn’t have that look in my eyes.  You had it, and you won.  You gotta get that look back, Rock.  Eye of the tiger, man.  Eye of the tiger.  Come on, let’s go…”


--Carl Weathers as Apollo in “Rocky III”

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So, do you have that look in your eyes? You know, the one where you walk into a room and people see you as the one person who knows how to fight and win? They sense your resolve, your grit, your sense of duty toward serving something bigger than yourself. They experience that passion behind all of your actions and wonder where is it all coming from? Those watching, see you as absolutely fearless about the road ahead, not because you’re perfect, but because you’ve had your “steel” tested before and learned how to endure. Yeah… That’s the look I am talking about.


This is what we’re striving for in the Hero’s Journey: Getting that look and everything that goes with it. And it all starts with two simple words: Own It! Own your dreams, own your goals, own your action plan, own the 1,440 minutes in every single, God given day so nothing stops you for living your purpose. Make your choices, take your chances, and live with all of the consequences that result.


Personally, I have (5) life long goals that are tied to my dream list. Below is the one that is associated with the creation and growth of Freedom’s Light Charity Program. It’s my way of staying connected with my fellow servicemen and remaining worthy of their sacrifice.



Grow readership, donations, and belief in the Freedom’s Light Charity Program by increasing the number of readers / hits to site, earning trust from donors, and writing the best journals I possibly can each week for my daughters. Be a Top 10 Finisher in the Clydesdale Division at the 2012 Westchester 70.3 Mile Toughman.



  • Over the next 20 weeks, I will follow a training program that develops me holistically: Mind-Body-Spirit. Daily, I will write notes in my training log that covers 5 key areas of focus: Swim, Bike, Run, Nutrition, and Injury Prevention. I will also continue to pray 3 times a day to sustain clarity and focus.


  • Over the next 20 weeks, I will seek out opportunities to raise money for charities that support military, first responders, and children impacted by the Global War on Terror as a way of investing back into the nation.


  • Over the next 20 weeks, I will dedicate 1 full day each week to my daughters, helping them see their natural gifts and encouraging them to live balanced, healthy lives.


  • Over the next 20 weeks, I will write weekly journals to inspire others to pursue their dreams and leave important letters for my family to read.



So, do you have a dream list and a set of personal goals? What about some short-term objectives and an action plan to get there? If you don’t, then I suggest you “own it” today. Do it now, before someone or something steps into your life and decides to “own” you!


Until next week…


God Bless,





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Letters From Your Father – It Starts with Head, Heart, and Habits


[While wrestling with his son, Pleistarchos]


King Leonidas: “In the end, a Spartan’s true strength is the warrior next to him. So, give respect and honor to him, and it will be returned to you. First, you fight with your head…”


Queen Gorgo: “Then you fight with your heart.”



Gerard Butler and Lena Headey from the movie “300”

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Dear Girls:


Over the weeks ahead of training, I will be writing about key decision points in my life that I’ve learned from. These are the things I think about when I workout, and now I am making time to write them down. This week I’ll call the “early years.”


As you probably figured out by now, your Mom and I have been trying to pack your time with as many different activities as possible to give you a broad range of experiences. Why? Simply put, we’re raising you to be leaders. Leaders of what? Well, that’s entirely up to you. From family, to work, to your place of worship, the world is ripe with leadership opportunities where you can make a difference. Regardless of what you choose, we feel that its best to develop you to have a strong moral compass, care deeply about others, and be capable of doing most things yourself. We’re also encouraging you to be friendly to as many people as possible but build close relationships with only those few who can demonstrate a mutual respect and trust. These are the folks that will help you through your hard times. And, in return, respect and honor their commitment by promising to be there for them.


OK, this seems like pretty serious stuff and a lot to absorb. Being a leader is not easy. It takes a lifetime to learn how to master. So, let me explain more by telling you a short story that is a closer to where you are at today.


You probably wonder what your Mom and I were like when we were kids. In many respects, we were typical of most kids, had a lot of fun, and were far from perfect. But the one thing I can say that made us unique and ultimately brought us together in high school was that we were raised to be far more concerned about doing what was right rather than what was popular.  


Describing myself, the range of my family experiences from being both Dominican and Irish could not have been any wider. It led to me being very open and accepting toward nearly everyone I met. The only criteria I had was the one that my Mom gave me: They had to have a good heart. Instead of following crowds, I introduced myself to individuals who were by themselves because it gave me a chance to really see who they were. Fortunately for me, I made a lot of friends that way through school, sports, band, religion, work, and other activities. When playing sports, an extremely competitive side of my personality also emerged. With football in particular, I would train months ahead of the season and completely devote myself to the team and winning. Another area where that “sharp edge” came out was when I saw or was told about bullying. Even then, I had a very strong sense of right and wrong and given my size and influence, I didn’t hesitate in helping to “resolve” issues for kids and even teachers.


Now your Mom, on the other hand, was not at all interested in sports. Instead, she had a strong love for science, the environment, and wildlife. In 9th grade she formed an organization called SAAVE (Students Against Animal Violations and Exploitations). By her Junior Year she had grown the club to such a large size she had the entire school on a recycling program. I also remember when she decided that she wanted to mobilize a “Yellow Ribbon” charity concert to support the Red Cross and troops coming home from the First Gulf War. No one told her to do it. She just did it with her organization because she thought it was the right thing to do. She did so many other amazing feats (to include helping me qualify for the National Honor Society) that if I started to write them, the note would be 3 times longer.


So why do I write this? Well, there is a lesson here that was given to us by our parents that I am passing on to you! Although your Mom and I had a very different focus growing up, we were both taught by our own parents to live your life by aligning three things: Your head, your heart, and your habits. It’s an instinct that says, “I know what’s right. I can do something; therefore, I will.” Just mastering one or two of these is not enough. You need to align all three to be fulfilled. The good news is there is no special gift or talent required to live this way. You only need to be willing to throw yourself completely at something you love, learn, adapt, and grow. Looking back, this lesson continues to be our anchor as your parents, even today.

Sounds burdensome? A little bit much given your age? Hey, don’t worry! Just like our parents did for us, we’re going to be here to protect you and help every step of the way until you are older. When it comes to being beautiful, confident, and intelligent women, just be yourselves and follow your Mom’s lead when you have doubts. And as for me, and what I have to offer… Well, I’ll continue to write journals like this and teach you how to fight! 


Hope you keep reading…


With Love,





This Week in Training:


Last week was successful. I met my goal for completing each of my workouts and daily stretching. The mantra has been light, easy, and complete. Over the past few years, I’ve come out of the gate blazing, pushing hard every workout while significantly increasing training volume each week. By mid-season, I would have an injury and would have to slow things down and take days off. My expectation is that by staying steady and building a solid base over the first 8 weeks, I will be able to pick the time to surge and recover over the remainder of the season. On that note, here’s this week’s work out plan:


Monday: Swim 5-10 x 100m; Strength Training: Knees, Hips, & Legs

Tuesday: Brick Workout – Bike 60 min, Run 45 min, 6 Chin-ups/50 Pushups

Wednesday: Swim 6 x 300m; Bike 1.5 hrs

Thursday: Swim 12 x 40m; 300 Workout

Friday: Run 70 min

Saturday: Bike 2.25 hrs

Sunday: Stretch (Sports w/Girls)